Reperio in lucem: Taking Back Personal Accountability In A World That Lacks Control

The hypocrisy is T.H.I.C.K. with this one. Demanding people take more personal accountability while whining about the lack of online moderation, stopping them from making the decisions for which they should be held accountable? How is that keeping them accountable? From here, your suggestions just look like another traditional attempt to silence voices by enabling more gaslighting style abuse instead of challenging their concepts and dealing with them head-on.

Trump showed Facebook, Twitter, YouTube can't moderate their platforms. We need change

Y'all are going through the same growing pains we teens did on dial-up back in the 90s. This genuinely free, instant speech thing is wildly new in everyone's lives... still.

Instead of calling for more crowd control - an issue that you know full and well will just keep returning, along with all the problems we keep trying to silence discussions of until they boil over into rage-filled riots - how about calling for more SELF-control? More critical thinking? More education? More communication? Better communication? More facts? More scientific method? More research ability?

This is what personal accountability on the internet indeed looks like. You read what you want to read and say what you want to say. You express caution in who you trust and what information you put out there. You check sources. In one two-second glance, you know whether a website is likely to be a legitimate source of information or not. You pick up on incongruencies in data quickly and realize they should be held up to closer examination any time the facts just don't seem to make any sense. You can silence your mind & emotions and just observe. You are comfortable with being wrong. You are equally indifferent about being right. You genuinely don't care if other people think radically different things than you or say fundamentally different things. You check your anger when you feel it coming, and turn off the PC... get some fresh air... work on a project... knowing that you just need to redirect your focus to something more productive and positive than stewing away your emotions in text. You know how to stand by your values without trampling others' rights or boundaries within any given virtual digital space.

In this, online accountability strongly resembles real-life responsibility.

Yes, we should have laws about what is acceptable online and not... most importantly, we should start by enforcing the laws we already have governing those issues. Creating new regulations will do nothing if we don't find a way to implement them.

But, seriously, overall. It's time for a lot of folks to just grow up. Stop allowing advertisers, celebrities, politicians, the Jones, and 1%ers to control every aspect of your lives, personalities, values, and goals. Yeah, it's scary to take responsibility for yourself - TRUE responsibility for yourself. The world is a risky and dangerous place... That is partly because these issues keep getting swept back under the rug, and each passing generation just becomes a little more desperate to get their voices heard. It is also because no one has been encouraged to take responsibility for themselves... allowing the system to infantilize and even kill them. Allowing the system to mold them... then blaming the system when they land in jail or lose it all because the system has turned them into a sociopath or an animal. YOU ALLOWED IT - realizing and accepting this is taking real responsibility for yourself. It is when you say, I allowed this stuff to happen to me. I forgive myself because I was not self-aware. Now I AM self-aware, and I will no longer allow anyone to run my life decisions other than me and me alone. If I'm going to fall, I'm going to fail because it was my choice... not because I gave my choice away to someone else.

And then... you gotta follow through on this. You got to admit when you're wrong and forgive yourself. You've got to admit when you aren't trying as hard as you could be, or when you're not doing what you should be doing... and accept the consequences, cope with them... and forgive yourself for all that, too. You need to forgive others because, let's face it: you are never going to change them, and it's a waste of your energy trying to change something beyond your control. You CAN control what YOU do, and that is all the control you really need.

You must know that you can take care of yourself better than anyone else ever can or will. You must understand that your sacred duty is to care for and prioritize yourself - it is NOT an obligation of others to do that for you. But it is a blessing straight from the universe to you when someone DOES offer to lighten your load a little.

And you should always pay that kind of energy forward to keep it coming right back to you.

Have you ever felt the push and pull of waves at the beach? I wish everyone could notice this phenomenon of how the waves both push forward and suction back simultaneously as they roll in. I feel like this particular event mirrors the push and pull of energy between us when we interact with each other - we are both giving and receiving. When you give energy to another person in the form of a deed, word, or even just a vibe, it rolls back into you. It then keeps on cycling back and forth between you and the person you are interacting with. It's the same as that same pushing and pulling sensation of a wave rolling into shore. You stand at the center of this, in sync with each other... ever feel that? Almost like you're floating in space together? That's the real good stuff, baby. ;)

The most straightforward example of this: being in love. You both just totally get swept away in each other's energies then. You become echoes of each other... the push and pull of that endless wave, a cycle of energy. Well, until one day you crash up against some rocks... heh.

If there ever was a Golden Ratio for human behavior... I do believe that would be the definition of it. There is a Golden Rule for it, though, which has persisted for centuries because its wisdom remains eternal: Do to others as you would have them do to you. 
  • What is hateful to you, do not do to your neighbor. This is the whole Torah; all the rest is commentary.
  • In everything, do unto others what you would have them do to you. This sums up the law and the prophets.
  • One should treat all creatures in the world as one would like to be treated.
  • Regard your neighbor’s gain as your own gain and your neighbor’s loss as your own loss.
  • Tzu-Kung asked, “Is there one word which can serve as the guiding principle for conduct throughout life?” Confucius said, “It is the word altruism (shu). Do not do to others what you do not want them to do to you.”
  • We are much alive as we keep the Earth alive.
  • None of you are true believers until you love for your brother what you love for yourself.
  • Do not offend others as you would not want to be offended.
  • I am a stranger to no one, and no one is a stranger to me. Indeed, I am a friend to all.
Is it sinking in yet?

Then maybe this will. 

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